Be nice every day and get a better sex life

Skrevet af Helle-Lise Ritzau KaptainJesper Snedker Adamsen, (versioning) - 5. april 2016 - 12:370 kommentarer
Just do it! It usually doesn't take much effort to be nice to others and more often than not you get more in return.

Feeling irritable and off your game? Do you regularly consider calling in sick even though you know it is the wrong thing to do? Maybe you should try being nicer, as respondents in a new national survey experienced remarkably positive changes after being nicer to others for just a week. 

Most Danes believe that we are a friendly and welcoming people. But when the chips are down, it can actually be quite intimidating to move out of your comfort zone for the sole purpose of doing something nice for someone else.

And that conclusion really surprised Mads Thomsen, one of the people behind the initiative, the so-called ‘Flink Nationalmåling’.

Mads, who is currently busy writing his master’s thesis at CBS, and a friend of his, Morten Tromholt, a graduate student at the Department of Sociology at the University of Copenhagen, were both encouraged to help the ‘Fucking Flink’ movement draw up a national survey.  

The purpose of the survey was to investigate whether or not random friendly gestures would produce detectable positive effects among respondents.

Increased energy and happiness levels

Mads was assigned to design the survey from scratch.

- It was a nice experience for once not having to focus on socioeconomic aspects, and at the same time it was educational to get to use some of the tools I have been taught during my courses, i.e. statistics, for something completely other than usual, says Mads.

And in terms of subjects, there certainly is some distance between strategic forecasting in the agricultural sector, which is the focus of Mads’ thesis, and investigating how friendliness affects health and happiness levels.

- The ‘Flink Nationalmåling’ shows that being nice increases mental health levels, and makes us more effective and creative, increases our energy and happiness levels. Put simply, being friendly makes you a happier human being and it even decreases people’s inclination to call in sick, says Lars AP from the Fucking Flink organization.

Fear of being ridiculed

Almost 1,000 respondents participated in the survey and the results in terms of respondents’ positive change in mood were impressive.

After one week of intentional friendly behavior, respondents’ irritability levels dropped by 29 percent, while the likelihood of respondents feeling anger dropped by 38 percent.

The survey also showed that respondents’ inclination to laugh increased by 16 percent; their urge to flirt increased by 28 percent; and the perception of having a good sex life increased by 22 percent after just one week.

Mads admits that he has failed to do a good deed on a daily basis lately, but that, he says, is solely due to the fact that he spends most of the day in isolation as he is writing his master’s thesis.

- Prior to the survey I thought a lot about the concept of being nice to others and now I feel that being nice actually makes me happier and gives me more energy, says Mads Thomsen, who encourages everyone to donate more attention to being nice to others.

One of the plausible conclusions of the survey is that Danes are actually colder and more cynical than they are willing to admit. And we certainly do not want to be ridiculed or made fun of, which is perhaps why it can be intimidating for some to do something nice for others. 

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The respondents, who all performed at least one act of kindness every day for one week, said that they:

  • have become increasingly effective and creative
  • have increased energy and happiness levels
  • feel decreased urge to call in sick in the morning
  • feel less irritable and angry
  • laugh more
  • feel increased desire to flirt
  • have a more positive perception of the quality of their sex lives

Indeed remarkable results after just one week.

Read more about the results of the survey (in Danish).